February 23, 2023

Three Things Thursday: Relationships

I was having trouble coming up with something to write for Three Things Thursday today, so I decided to do some google searches and hopefully spark an idea. I started to type a search query, and then thought it would be fun to pick one of the suggestions:

I can definitely tell that these weren't targeted at me, hahaha. Pretty sure I've never googled anything close to those!

Since Jerry and I will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary this year, I thought it would be nice to write about three things that make a relationship great. It doesn't say it has to be a romantic relationship, but that's immediately what I thought of. I would say that Jerry and I have a pretty great relationship--so here are three things that *I* think make it so. I hope it's not too mushy!  (It totally is.) ;)

1. We trust each other.

Seattle in 2017

It's a totally cliché response, but it's true. There is no one in the world I trust more than Jerry. I know how much he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me, no matter what the situation. Even when we argue, I trust that everything is going to be fine.

We feel super secure in our relationship (and always have) so we don't question and wonder things like, "Why is he late coming home?" or "Who is she texting?", etc. When we see movies or TV shows where couples get extremely jealous over normally-harmless things, and even going through each other's phones and belongings, we often comment about how much anxiety we would feel in a relationship like that.

We're also extremely honest with each other (probably too honest). We tell each other everything (the stuff that matters, I mean--I'm pretty sure he doesn't care about how far I got on my knitting project or how long I played fetch with Duck that day!); we just don't keep secrets from each other. I know I can say anything I want and not be judged. 

I overthink everything, worry about everything, and just have anxiety in general... but the one thing I am not at all worried about is our marriage. Everything would feel so much harder if I didn't have a partner that I trust.

2. We choose time together over material things.

"This way we won't have to sleep with our heads in the mud." --Bubba
A quote from Forrest Gump that we say probably more frequently than you'd think!

Everybody is different and cares about different things, so I don't judge how people choose to spend their money. I think most people probably splurge on certain things and cut back on others, depending on what is important to them, so it may balance out in most cases. We don't drive fancy cars, we have a relatively small, modest home, and we don't try to "keep up with the Joneses" by owning very expensive things. (I'm not saying there is anything wrong with big houses, fancy cars, and lots of material possessions--those things just aren't important to us.)

If we cared about that stuff, sure--I could get a full-time job and continue writing my blog, and Jerry could pick up overtime every day of the week--but we would never get to spend time together. We genuinely like hanging out together, so we found a balance that works for us. We both agree that we would rather have time and create memories together than live an expensive lifestyle.

3. We laugh together. A lot.

Jerry told me, "Take a selfie--with a Jerry face!--while I look sick. Then all of your haters will hate you even more for having fun while I'm in the hospital." BAHAHAHA

Maybe it's because I can be totally uninhibited in front of Jerry, but we say the most ridiculous things and we have a million inside jokes. Once in a while, we even scroll through memes together--memes always give me the giggles and after a while, every little thing sets me off into a laughing fit. When I start laughing at everything, it usually causes Jerry to get the giggles as well. Soon, we are both laughing so hard we are wheezing.

I think that having the little inside jokes brings us closer. Sometimes the things we laugh about are totally inappropriate, so it's fun to have someone who "gets" the humor (and doesn't get offended by tasteless jokes). Even if we aren't really doing anything but sitting and having a conversation, laughing together makes it fun.

Jerry and I got married super young. We started dating when I was 17 and he 18; we got married four years later, when I was 21 and he 22. (And had a baby 11 months later!). A lot of people were discouraging our choice to get married so young because the odds of us staying together were definitely not in our favor.

Our relationship is faaaaar from perfect, so I don't want to make it sound that way based on this post. We have disagreements like any other couple and we have pretty much nothing in common--our interests are as different as could possibly--but, somehow, it works in our favor. We balance each other out nicely! And I'm just lucky that I found my partner so early in life :)


  1. We love a good love story!! This is a great one. Here's to many more happy years together.

  2. I hope you appreciate how lucky you are to have such a bond; and similarities where they matter!

  3. You guys are just so perfect and cute together! I love that you found your love so young and get to spend so many years together!! <3

  4. You are blessed to find each other so early. I wish I found my husband so Much sooner. He is my best friend. I would be completely lost without him.


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