
As promised, I am dedicating this entire post to the most uncomfortable (but exciting) thing I've done in a very long time... wearing a bikini for the first time in my life.
I've always wanted to wear a bikini, because all my friends did, but even when I was young, I felt ashamed of my body. My weight went up and down several times through the years, but I never felt like I was worthy enough to wear a bikini, for crying out loud.
When I was losing weight, I knew that even after the weight loss, I wouldn't have a "bikini body", because I'm pretty loaded with stretch marks--both from the excess weight and from having two large babies. My surgeon told me that even after my skin removal surgery, my stretch marks would still be visible, because of how high up they went. I was okay with that--I hadn't expected the surgery to give me the perfect body.
Every summer, when we go to the beach or a pool, or even a hotel pool, and I'd see women in bikinis, I would briefly entertain the idea of possibly wearing one, despite the stretch marks, scar, and loose skin. When I was at my thinnest, just under 130 pounds, I still didn't feel "worthy" enough of wearing a bikini.
Recently, however, I've started to feel more confident in my body--which is very strange, because I've gained quite a bit of weight this year (15 pounds on a good day, 20 pounds on a bad day). But I've been trying to step out of my comfort zone a bit, and when we planned our trip to Punta Cana, I thought it would be the perfect time to wear a bikini in public--because nobody would know me, and I'd never see any of them again.
There were very slim pickings at the store, because I went in late August, but I found a couple of tops and a pair of bottoms that were shorts (bearing my stomach was hard enough, so I wanted to cover what little of my thighs that I could!). I was going to return one of the tops, because I only needed one to wear for a single day before wearing a one-piece bathing suit, but Jeanie, my sister, convinced me that I'd need more than one bathing suit. She said I should bring it, and if I didn't wear it, I could return it when I got home.
We stayed 7 nights in Punta Cana, and before we even got there, I was chickening out about wearing the bikini. I figured I'd put it off, and hopefully feel okay in wearing it for just one day toward the end of our trip. When we got there, Jeanie told me I should wear it the first day, and just get it out of the way--that way, I wouldn't be worrying about it the whole trip. That made a lot of sense.
To spoil the ending, I never even took the tags off of my one-piece suit--I wore a bikini the entire week! It was funny to see just how my attitude changed throughout the week, so I'll share that with you here:
Day One: I was SUPER nervous to put it on. My hands were literally shaking, and I decided to go next door to my sister's room to ask her very honest opinion about whether I should wear it. I felt super self-conscious just standing in front of her, and we weren't even in public yet! She assured me I should wear it, so I put on a cover-up over it, and we went down to the pool. I thought maybe I'd just avoid the pool the whole day, and stay in the cover-up, but it was hot and I wanted to cool off.
Taking off the cover-up for the first time was SO hard. I was sure everyone was looking at me. Finally, I just yanked the cover-up off, and beelined down the steps of the pool before anyone could see me. I was so surprised at how the water felt on my bare belly--it was strange! Once in the water, I felt okay, because the water came up to my chest.

When I got out of the pool, I grabbed a towel and wrapped it around me, and then as soon as I was semi-dry, I pulled on the cover-up again. There was no way that I was going to sit on the lounge chair without covering myself, and that's how it went for day one.
Day Two: When deciding what to wear, I almost put on my one-piece, but then I realized that I actually wanted to wear the bikini again, because it's less fabric to dry off (important when you're in and out of the pool all day). Again, I wore a cover-up over it.
At the pool this time, when I got out, I dried off with the towel, and then laid on the lounge chair just covering my stomach with my hands. I was getting a little braver!

Day Three: Didn't even think of wearing the one-piece. Wore the same suit as the day before, because it was very comfortable. At the pool, I didn't even hesitate when taking off my cover-up, and I took my time walking down the steps into the pool. When I got out, I didn't hurry to cover myself up again.
Eli wanted me to walk with him to get fries on the beach. Instead of drying off and putting on the cover-up, I walked to the beach and back in just the bikini. I was sure everyone was looking, but nobody paid any attention--it was awesome!
Jerry and I spent probably an hour in hysterics, taking pictures of each other under water. It was so fun!
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Day Four: Wore a bikini again. We were going to go snorkeling, and Jeanie said we would just wear our bathing suits on the boat. I couldn't imagine that--walking to the beach, then to the boat, riding in a boat, getting in and out of the boat... in a bikini?! I was going to bring a towel, but at the last minute, I ditched it. We walked to the beach to sign up (the warning flag was up, however, so we couldn't go snorkeling--but I walked to the beach and stood there at the scuba shop for about 15 minutes in just my bikini.
Day Five: Jeanie went home, but I still wore the bikini. By this point, I had no problem taking off the cover-up, lying on the lounge chair with my belly exposed, etc. I even sat in one of the floats we brought, which isn't a very flattering position, but I did it anyway.

This day, when I walked to the bathroom, I didn't put my cover-up on. That meant walking all the way around the huge pool, to the bathroom, and inside where there were mirrors and women looking into the mirrors. I tried not to look at my belly (at least not judgmentally) in the mirror, but I did see it and notice the stretch marks and imperfections. But, I did not feel bad about myself. There were tons of women at the resort in bikinis, and they were all sorts of different shapes and sizes. Some with stretch marks, scars, loose skin, wrinkles, etc. If they could do it, I could, too... and at least fake being confident!
Day Six: The final day before our travel day home. There was one thing I wanted to do all week, but I was nervous to do it. It seemed so silly! I wanted to get a picture of Jerry and me on the beach, and I wanted to wear just my bikini--no cover-up. It just seemed like the perfect way to finish the week of the bikini.
So we went to the beach, and Noah snapped a few photos of Jerry and me. They aren't fantastic pictures, and I'm not going to photoshop out the stretch marks or anything. I like the photo because it reminds me of how I went from my hands trembling at the thought of wearing a bikini to wearing one all week long, and actually feeling confident in it by the end. When I look at the picture, I don't immediately look for my stretch marks, loose skin, and extra pounds. Looking at the picture makes me feel confident, and happy that I stepped out of my comfort zone. It wasn't nearly as scary as I'd imagined it would be!
If you've always wanted to wear a bikini, but you don't feel "worthy", I highly encourage you to do it--regardless of your size, shape, or imperfections. This was a HUGE confidence booster for me! And I guarantee it won't be the last time that I wear it ;)
You look absolutely stunning!! Congrats on overcoming your fear!
ReplyDeleteYou look great! Kudos to you for ditching the cover up and gaining confidence!!
ReplyDeleteYou do look great! Definite kudos to you! Have fun in minnesota this weekend that is where i live too. :)
ReplyDeleteVery inspiring! Way to go!
ReplyDeleteYou look awesome!!!
ReplyDeleteKatie, as I read through your daily notes, I found by the end I was a little teary lol You've come a long way and I'm not talking about your weight loss. Mark wanted you to live your life to the fullest and have fun...he'd be SO proud of you!!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness Katie you look terrific!!! No need for cover ups at all. I've worn a bikini once at my friends pool and I literally Beelined for the pool or laid on the lounge chair (thank goodness there were only a few of us in the pool) I am proud and inspired by your confidence and hope that someday too to wear a bikini proudly despite what my body looks like bc am dammit I lost over 90lbs and I earned every inch of sagging skin and stretch mark I have, but they're my battle scars of the battle I fight day with my weight and continue to percevere!
ReplyDeleteYou look amazingly happy and beautiful! There is no stopping you!
ReplyDeleteYou look great Katie! I can tell how proud you were by the smile on your face, first thing I noticed :)
ReplyDeleteWoo Hoo!! So glad you went ahead and wore the bikini the whole week!! Can't wait until I get to that point too! Next year I hope!
ReplyDeleteI'm a lurker and rarely, if ever, comment. I know - bad. But I had to break my lurker-status to say that you are a rock star! So proud of you for facing your fear. You look amazing!
ReplyDeleteI also read your blog all the time and have never commented. We are our own worse critics. But as an outsider looking in you look amazing and beautiful! I think it's awesome you conquered your goal of wearing a bikini.
ReplyDeleteKatie, you look beautiful! I am so proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone!!!
ReplyDeleteYou looked awesome! What a fun vacation!
ReplyDeleteYou look so great! I can identify with your post SO much. I have never in my life even tried on a bikini. Maybe next summer I will follow your example. :)
ReplyDeleteA GREAT post!! You look fantastic! Congrats on this big accomplishment!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. I know it's easy to be self critical. You look great in a bikini!!
ReplyDeleteYou look great Katie!! Great job stepping out of your comfort zone and rocking that bikini!!
ReplyDeleteYou look beautiful in that bikini. I LOVE the underwater pictures--especially the one with the boys behind you. So cute! My daughter-in-law invited me to the local swimming pool last month, to watch my granddaughter swim. I planned on just watching from outside the fence surrounding the pool, but she had passes and talked me into coming inside the pool area. When she got to my house to pick me up, I had on capris, she talked me into changing into shorts, she said I would want to at least be able to wade in the zero-entrance side of the pool. I hated even wearing shorts that come clear to my knees. But I did it, and when I got to the pool--what a shock! There were people of all sizes and shapes and most of them were wearing swimming suits. Nobody judged anybody else, and I'm guessing there were more people there that were overweight, than there were normal-sized people, and only a very few of those so-called "Perfect Bodies." It's so hard to just get over our insecurities and belief that everyone is looking at us and judging us. If I ever get back to the pool, I'm wearing my swimming suit! It was a hot day, the water would have felt great.
ReplyDeleteYou look amazing, Katie! So glad you had a wonderful time!
ReplyDeleteKatie the last picture is great. Honestly if you hadn't mentioned stretch marks, I would have never noticed them. Which is great because I am pregnant with my first and now jave a million stretch marks on my belly. I used to worry a lot about it and worried what my husband would think of them, but now that they're there, I don't really care anymore hehe. Thank you for the inspiration! :) you are amazing.
ReplyDeleteYou look amazing!!!!! Beautiful & inspiring!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post!
ReplyDeleteI love that picture of you and your husband -- you both look so happy, relaxed, and like you're having a great time on vacation. I didn't notice anything other than that.
Amazing!!! So happy for you. I hope one day I'll be able to do the same. What a transformation of the mind!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness. I've never commented but this post made my day! I have a huge grin on my face. GO YOU!!! I'm so happy for you. Woot woot for self confidence. And hey oh! you look amazing in that bikini.
ReplyDeleteWay to go! you look great. Sometimes we look or find imperfections that aren't there. You are lucky to have such a supportive family.
ReplyDeleteYou look fantastic!
ReplyDeleteYou rocked that bikini!! I love the picture of you and Jerry on the beach! I've gone through the same thoughts and feelings, and learned confidence is always sexy!
ReplyDeleteI love this, Katie! You look so happy. Confidence takes practice, just like running takes practice. You just have to do it!
ReplyDeleteYou looked great! So brave! I'm not sure I'll ever manage that...
ReplyDeleteCongrats Katie!! That's one of my goals too :) I think next summer I will do it regardless of my size. Thanks for inspiring me! And you look fab!
ReplyDeleteWhat extra pounds? You look great!
ReplyDeleteIf I looked like you I would have spent the whole week naked!
ReplyDeleteOk I'm kidding. But you look fantastic, you rocked that bikini!
You look great! LOVE the last picture!! :)
ReplyDeleteSo inspiring thank you for posting! I love all the details and thoughts you included in this post! You look great! Reminds me of something I saw it said "How to get a bikini body: Put on a bikini!"
ReplyDeleteI am only about 10 pounds from my goal weight and when I get there, my girlfriends and I are going bikini shopping for me! It'll be the first time in a while... my belly is so pale compared to the rest of my body right now! But I'm ready to give it a try and maybe even enjoy the last bits of warm weather in the South in a new bikini :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the additional inspiration! I love your blog and I've been reading it ever since I started my own weight loss journey!
You are the QUEEN of Awesome! Congratulations on your achievements! I love your attitude and you are truly a wonderful inspiration! You go, girl!!
ReplyDelete--Mave.
I WISH I looked like you! Fantastic!! Maybe I'll run with just a tank, bearing my arms, some day...
ReplyDeleteYou look SO beautiful and happy Katie! All I see is your lovely slim figure and the enormous smile on your face. I love this quote about stretch marks - "Your body is not ruined. You're a goddamn tiger who earned her stripes!"
ReplyDeleteNice bikinis! I wish I could finally wear one someday. Congrats, girl. :)
ReplyDeleteI found your blog when I searched jog vs. run. Wow, you have a great blog and have come a long ways! I have been running for about a year, and while I haven't lost a ton of weight (23 lbs) I have lost a lot of inches. I feel better and look better, and best of all I have learned so much more about myself than just running to lose weight. It changes your life inside and out. I should add more to my blog about the personal journey, rather than just my running milestones and obstacles. I look forward to exploring your blog more!
ReplyDeleteAwesome :)
ReplyDeleteSo awesome!!!!!! You are amazing!! And you look amazing too!!!
ReplyDeleteThat's so great! You look wonderful!!
ReplyDeleteWhat an amazing post! Thank you for sharing this. You look wonderful, and you can tell in the last pic how far you've come from the first one, and how happy you look. Great work!
ReplyDeleteYou look fantastic. Thank you for sharing your inspiring journey with us!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Patty
you look fantastic! WTG! Glad your trip was such fun!
ReplyDeleteGorgeous photos. I'm glad that you were able to get over your fears because you look great in your bikini. I especially loved the underwater pics -- really fun.
ReplyDeleteAwesome! You look great!
ReplyDeleteYou look phenomenal! You can see your confidence shining through! And that bikini is super cute :)
ReplyDeletethank you SO much for writing this. I think you look so happy and like you're having a blast- I would never have given you in a bikini a 2nd glance if I was there (and I mean that in a nice way). You look completely "normal" and healthy. I'm going to Jamaica in Nov, and I'm not at goal (about 30 lbs over). I've never worn a bikini either, b/c when I was young I thought I was too fat (and I wasn't). I was really hoping to wear one in Jamaica so now I might. I'll let you know if I am brave enough, perhaps for a Monday post in the fall :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing how hard this was for you. You look great!!! Just remember how far you've come. Kudos.
ReplyDeleteYou look amazing! Good for you.
ReplyDeleteFunny how you were so worried about how you looked but you look great to me. No reason to worry!
ReplyDeleteGo girl!, you rule!! Every inch of you is awesome! Keep running this race!
ReplyDeleteGood for you for overcoming this!
ReplyDeleteAll I see is your toned, flat tummy!
ReplyDeleteI think you look wonderful! Go you! I love when people overcome their body fears!
ReplyDeletewonderful! you look amazing!!!
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