Q. Why don't you and Jerry attend church with the boys and your parents?
A. I've gone to church many times (at many different churches) and almost always, I'm glad that I went. But getting the motivation to go is the hard part--I guess this is kind of like running, in that sense! I believe in God, and I pray daily. But going to church feels strange to me. I don't like any attention on me, and every time I've gone, the pastor or other church members kind of make a big deal about it to make me feel welcome. I wish I could just sneak in and sit in the back and leave when it's over. But my parents are very involved in the church, and they make a big ta-da about it when I go. I really like the pastor and his wife, and I got to know them pretty well a few years ago. They had just moved here and they didn't have a house yet. My parents let the new pastor and his wife live with them for a few months until they found a house.
So the fact that I don't go to church isn't so much about the church itself, or the people there. It's just that I don't like it being a big production when I go. I realize that if I went every week, it wouldn't be such a big deal. And I keep telling myself that I'll go next week. Because of Jerry's work schedule, he is only able to go 2 out of every 6 weeks, so I'll have to go alone or with my parents. But I really do want to try and start going regularly.
Q. How is the debt payback going? Are you making billions on your blog yet?!
A. We're making some progress--slowly but surely. I actually didn't earn a single penny from my blog until February of this year. I finally found an ad company I was happy with (much thanks to Cathy at Fabulessly Frugal). And then I was accepted into the BlogHer advertising program, which has been fantastic. Between the ads and being an Amazon affiliate, I'm not making a TON of money--but I make about the same as I would working a part-time minimum wage job. (Although, if I calculated the amount of hours per week I spend blogging and responding to e-mails, I'm working for MUCH less than minimum wage, haha).
My plan from the beginning has been to use any money that I make from blogging on debt repayment. I have credit card debt and the debt from my surgery to pay back. I've been continuing to make regular payments from Jerry's checks, but now that I'm earning a little from blogging, that is just extra money to pay toward the principal. Since I LOVE blogging, it works out well :)
We've already been living pretty frugally, so there isn't much to cut back on. Our credit card debt was acquired a few years ago when the economy crashed--Jerry's job cut hours big time, and we had to pay for a LOT of things with our credit card. I was working from home for a gynecologist up until August 2010, when they let me go (the work I was doing was temporary, and lasted me about 5 years). We were barely getting by, but we managed not to acquire any more debt. Thankfully, Jerry's hours are back to normal now, so we're digging our way out of debt. If all goes well, I'm hoping we'll be debt-free in about five years.
Q. Did you attend college?
|What's not to like about college?|
I had SO MUCH FUN those two years, but I had no idea what I wanted to do with my major. So I moved back home and started going to community college--just a one-year medical assistant program. When I was halfway through, they canceled the program. I really felt hopeless then. I applied for a dietetics program, and was accepted to that. However, I got married in August 2003, and about a week after school started, I decided to drop out. I wasn't enthusiastic about any of it, and it was a lot of money to pay for something that I didn't really want to do.
I don't have any desire to go back to school. It's funny, though. My mom always said (while I was growing up) that I would one day be a writer. I loved to write, and creative writing was always my best subject. She insisted I go to college, so I did. But now I'm home and writing, and I love it! I don't know that I'm considered a "writer" since all I write is this blog; but I do have hopes of a memoir one day :)
And now a question for all of YOU...
What did you always want to be when you grew up? Did you actually end up doing it?
I always wanted to be a writer, but since that "wasn't realistic", I didn't pursue it.