January 07, 2024

All Grown Up

Well, it happened. Both of my kids are now adults. *lots of tears*

Today is Eli's 18th birthday. Between Noah moving out and now Eli being a legal adult, my emotions have been working on overdrive. But to tell the truth, I couldn't be more proud of this kid and the adult he has become.

I almost feel like Eli came into this world as an adult. I've always referred to him as an "old soul"; he has an emotional maturity that even a lot of adults don't have in their lifetime. To say that he has compassion and empathy would be an understatement; he loves with his whole heart and he always puts others' feelings ahead of his own. What 18-year old does that?

I don't know if other parents feel this way, but I wish I could go back in time and do it all over again, with both of my kids. I would do things so much differently--have more patience, say "yes" more, and enjoy even the moments where I was frustrated or tired and felt like I needed a break. I can only hope that I did enough.

I know I've done this before on birthdays, but I really love looking through old photos to spark memories of when the kids were little. Eli was--and I would say this even if he wasn't my kid--quite possibly, the cutest kid EVER. He was the happiest and most easy-going baby! He loved taking naps, even as a toddler, and would tell me that he was "going to take a nap now" each day.

He loves animals and they have always been drawn to him. I think they feel the kindness in his heart and the compassion he has for them.

What I've always loved most about Eli is that he marches to the beat of his own drum. He had quirks from day one, and they became a fun part of his personality. He never conformed just to fit in with his peers; he was the trendsetter, even though that's not what he was going for.

Right now, he's not sure what he's going to do after graduation. He's been talking about looking for an apprenticeship in the trades, and I think that would be great for him. He also mentioned taking a gap year, working and saving up money while he decides what's next. Whatever he ends up doing, I know that he'll be great at it.

Here is a collection of some of my favorite pictures of him throughout the last 18 years...

January 7, 2006, 1:06 PM. 9 lbs. 10 oz. 



ALWAYS smiling





A crossbite that would later be corrected, but SO cute



One of his quirks was how much he loved accessories and odd clothing matches.



Just a regular Tuesday attire.



His third birthday



Again with the clothes and accessories!


The braces were to correct his crossbite. His molars didn't line up properly and he would choke on food frequently. He wore braces for three months to correct it. He used to call them his "bracelets".






Does that smile not melt your heart?



On a field trip to the apple orchard.


One of his beloved naps. 


I know how professional the cake looks but, believe it or not, my dad made it. ;)







Eli LOVED all things army. His favorite toys were "army guys"--the little green plastic men. He had dozens of them and played with them daily for years.


I'm not surprised to see that Eli was at the end of this rainbow <3



Phoebe was so young here!



For the life of me, I cannot remember him ever going through a football stage. It must have been very short-lived.



Eli has always been into his hair, and has many styles/colors through the years.



If I remember correctly, it was his birthday and we took him to Denny's. We said he could order anything at all, and this is what he chose! Hahah.



On our way home from vacation, we let each of the kids pick something out at at Walmart when we had to make a stop. Eli chose this tackle box--SO huge.



The kids both loved Spongebob Squarepants and watched it with my dad.


This is a super short video clip of Eli saying "Spongebob Squarepants"--just take all of the words in the thesaurus under the word "cute" and this sums them up...




He chose this outfit for Mark's funeral.


Chandler loving on Eli




He was SO happy to get a dog, and even happier that we'd picked a black dog. That's not the actual reason we chose Joey, but Eli had been hoping for a black dog.






Eli is absolutely Joey's favorite person on this earth.



Running cross country



He was very excited to get this haircut--he'd seen it on his favorite YouTuber.



Holding his only (at the time) cousin


Jerry urged him to use a wooden bat, and he showed Jerry just what would happen when he did ;)



Eli has always loved to cook, and he's got a natural talent for it. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he ends up being a chef one day!



Totally in his element. Fishing has been a hobby that he's loved since he was old enough to hold a pole.



He used to love pomegranates until he learned how much work they are to peel and remove the seeds!



He loved The Walking Dead, and on his wishlist was "Lucille" (the baseball bat wrapped in barbed wire). This one was plastic, of course!


His birthday breakfast. I wanted to make him waffles this morning, but he doesn't like to eat breakfast anymore. I miss making him a special birthday breakfast!



A natural squirrel whisperer. This was in Boston.



After getting his ears pierced.


We used green hairspray to match Lukes hair to Eli's faded green hair.



Even though he was a natural born catcher, Eli really loves to pitch. His (final) baseball season starts soon. Bittersweet!



His permanent farmer's tan. He looks like this all summer.


Eli can solve a Rubik's cube so fast that you might miss it if you sneeze or even blink. Finding a shirt with a SQUIRREL solving a Rubik's cube was meant to be.



This was a 13x13(?) cube. He solved it in four hours.



Eli and my sweet little dumpling pie when he was just a baby

He found this sign in the lake and now it hangs in his bedroom.






I will never forget this sweet little bird that came to my house--twice--and let us hold her.



Eli has always loved cookie cake




This was a bird at my parents' house. Like I said, animals are drawn to him.



Eli used to drink so much pop. I told him that if he could give it up for a whole year, I'd pay him $365--a dollar a day. I never believed he'd actually do it! This was Day 366, his first pop.



Duck loves it when Eli walks around the house holding him like this. He looks so proper!


Eli's first homecoming dance



When Eli was born, he was SOLID. He's always weighed much more than he looks because he has so much muscle mass. I always said that if he ever decided to lift weights, he'd be a monster--and it eventually became one of his favorite hobbies. He was lifting SO heavy for a while. Once he got a job, he stopped working out so much. I hope he'll get back into it--he's really good.



Last year's birthday at my mom's house. I guess she only had two candles? Haha.

Homecoming his junior year


Ava's prom junior year



He got his eyebrow pierced and I got another piercing in my nose last summer


His latest favorite pastime is golfing. He didn't want senior photos, but he asked if I would take some pictures of him on the golf course.


Buying his first car

Such a good looking kid adult!

January 04, 2024

Goals for 2024

I've always written a post about goals for the new year on the first of the year, but time totally got away from me last month. (I don't like saying "New Year's Resolutions" because it sounds corny, but that's essentially what I do every January.) I honestly wasn't even sure what goals I was going to focus on this year. I like to try to learn from each year--what worked, what didn't, why it didn't, etc.

First, here is a look at how I did on last year's goals...

1. Get my weight back into my maintenance range of 125-135.

Haha! I'm in the same boat this year. I did, in fact, get back into my maintenance range and was at about 130 pounds for a long time until a few months ago--I was so sure I'd figured out how to stay there. But just like the end of 2022, I gained about 15 pounds. I've thought about changing my maintenance range, but I just don't feel physically comfortable when my weight gets to the upper 130's. I'm curious how things will go this year.

2. Run 500 miles (cumulative, of course).

How did I forget about this one?! I just looked at last year's post and this was written on there. I honestly do not remember writing it. Needless to say, I did not reach this goal--I only ran about 78 miles. However, I did start a daily running habit and I'm currently on a streak of 126 days. I only run a lap around my block (0.4 miles), but my aim was to build a daily habit. Even though I didn't hit 500 miles (or even 20% of that, haha), I'm very happy with the habit I've developed.

3. Complete one crafting project per month.

I may or may not have completed this. I do a lot of crafting, and I've been especially into sewing this year. I didn't keep track of what I was doing through the year, so I'm not sure if I hit this goal.

4. Expand my vocabulary.

I started this one by learning one new word each week, but I found myself completely forgetting about it. So, I decided to start learning Spanish on Duolingo instead. I do at least one lesson a day, and I'm on day 221 right now. It's kind of crazy when I think of how much I've learned in such a short time!

Despite not really hitting those goals last year, I am not even the slightest bit upset about it. The year 2023 was a crazy year and not in a good way. Just surviving was good enough for me ;)

I've decided to try a different approach with goals this year. I'm only going to have ONE goal and I'm going to put my focus on that one goal instead of several. I think having a solitary goal will make me more likely to achieve it. I'm still going to work on other things, as I always am, but I've narrowed down my list to just one.

Eat more vegetables.

So simple! Right? I've been vegan for almost two years now and my diet has gotten so much healthier. However, I still don't eat the recommended amount of vegetables each day. The more I learn about how diet affects health, the more I want to eat healthy. And vegetables are the healthiest food there is!

It's kind of funny--the one vegetable that my entire family likes is Brussels sprouts!

I know that the word "more" isn't specific, but I wrote it that way on purpose. I don't want to put a number on it because I don't want to measure out vegetables or have to hit specific numbers for variety or anything like that.

I've *really* liked reading and listening to "How Not To Die" by Dr. Michael Greger. He is an expert on nutrition and passionate about using food to prevent and even cure disease. Yes, those "experts" are a dime a dozen these days, but one thing that makes him stand out from the rest: He so badly wants to teach people about using food as nutrition that he donates every cent from his book sales and business to charity. His website is non-profit. He doesn't have any sponsors or ads on his site or anything that would suggest a hidden agenda. He's written thousands of articles with all of the studies to back up his research. He doesn't push products and he publishes only facts (backed by research). If there was ever an expert to trust in the diet industry, it's him (in my opinion).

He has a list of what he calls the "Daily Dozen"--a checklist of 12 things we should try to fit into our diet each day. It looks overwhelming when you see the list, but he said not to aim for perfection--it's just a guide to help make better choices. You can actually download the app with the checklist--it's free and there are no ads!--but here is the list (you should be able to click it to make it bigger):


I was surprised to see that I already get a lot of those things every day already. The missing ones are vegetables! To try to get more veggies this year, I'm going to do my best to follow this guideline for the Daily Dozen. That means eating leafy greens, cruciferous vegetables, and other vegetables daily.

I started working on this last week and I'm inspired to keep going. There are a lot of vegetables that I like, but I don't cook them often because I'm the only one in my house who likes them. Jerry will try anything I make and he never ever complains, but I feel guilty making food that I "know" he won't like. He's always telling me to just cook whatever sounds good to me and he'll eat it. I try to do this, but I just feel too bad.

Dr. Gregor writes about how your tastebuds change as you change your diet (something I've noticed many times over the years) and so Jerry and I made a two-week challenge for ourselves. It doesn't sound like much of a sacrifice on my part, but I promise you it is HARD for me--I have to cook meals that sound good to me but that I "know" Jerry won't like. (I put that in quotes because we don't actually know if he'll like it or not.) And in return, he's going to eat only whole foods (including the meals I make) to see if his tastebuds start to change.

We only started this yesterday, but it's been interesting. While I have anxiety over it, Jerry is excited about it, hahaha. I made sweet potato taco bowls yesterday--roasted sweet potatoes with black beans and corn, taco seasonings, quinoa with lime, and a spicy cashew cream sauce. It sounded heavenly to me! But I would never have made that because it's not at all something Jerry would choose.

He has also promised to be completely honest about what he thinks of the dinners I make. I don't want him to tell me he likes something if he really doesn't. I was very surprised at how much he liked the taco bowls yesterday! He said it's something he'd definitely eat again.

The vegetables that I'm excited about eating are sweet potatoes, cauliflower, and mushrooms. If I can find a mushroom dish that Jerry likes, I'll be so happy! I want to make it clear that this wasn't my idea--Jerry is actually pretty excited about doing this challenge.

Anyway, I've been working on the daily dozen (and I love that I'm not striving to have a perfect checklist every day). It's only been about a week, but I feel good about it. Maybe by the end of 2024, I'll be able to tick all the marks on the checklist!

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