As a Lifetime Member, weighing in is only necessary once a month to keep your membership, but you can go to as many meetings as you like (assuming your weight is not more than two pounds above goal). So last week, I decided that I would just weigh in the first week of each month, but still attend my Thursday meetings.
Today, I walked in and said to the receptionist, "I already weighed in this month, but I'd like to come to the meeting. I haven't done this before--do you need my book, or my membership card, or anything?" She got the annoyed look on her face that I've gotten used to, and said, "Let me look at your book." So she looked at my weight record and saw that I was, in fact, under my goal weight and a free Lifetime Member. So she waved me toward the meeting, and off I went.
I wasn't feeling very good about the way she reacted, but I thought maybe I was just too sensitive and misread the whole thing, so I tried to forget about it. Then I noticed that she hadn't given me the little weekly pamphlet that they hand out when you weigh in. I decided to pick one up on the way out.
I stayed for the meeting, but the whole time, I was just feeling really uneasy. After the meeting was over, I walked out into the lobby area and there were two women at the desk--the receptionist who had checked my card, and a woman who always gives a rude impression (she's the one who I had issues with in the past, years ago). I'm not sure if she's like that with just me, or with everyone, but I think maybe it's just her personality? I don't know. Anyway...
I said, "Excuse me, could I get one of the weekly booklets? I didn't get one when I came in," and the rude-impression woman said, "Did you weigh in when you came in?" and I told her, "No, I weighed in last week, so I just came for the meeting today. But I showed my book to her (meaning the other woman) and--"
As I was talking, she wouldn't even look at me, or let me finish my sentence. She just kept saying "Okay" over and over while I was trying to talk. Not in a, "Okay, I understand" kind of way, but a "Okay, now stop talking, I got it" kind of way. This is really hard to describe. I was stunned at the tone in her voice, and I didn't know what to say. I stood there for a minute, trying to make sense of it, but then I just thanked her for the book that she handed me, and then I left, tears burning my eyes.
When I got in the car, I called Jerry and started crying as I described what happened. I feel SO unwelcome there, and I don't know what I did to deserve it! All I want is to go to a weekly meeting for accountability, and to really get to know the other people in the meeting.
My leader is the only one there who actually makes me feel comfortable and welcome, out of the 3-4 women working there on Thursday mornings. I'm sure if I told my leader the problem, she'd probably tell me to just go have her weigh me in and then I wouldn't have to deal with anyone else. But I hate that this is a problem in the first place--if I feel uncomfortable and unwelcome, I'm sure the chances of others feeling that way are likely also.
I've realized that this is NOT the norm for WW centers. Most people I've talked to have never had a problem like this, and they love their centers and their leaders. So I keep wondering if I'm just being overly sensitive, or if this really is a problem; after today, I really do think that it's a problem.
A big problem I've noticed there is that nobody seems to know much about maintenance and Lifetime Membership. Members spend so much time, energy, dedication, and money getting to maintenance, and achieving that Lifetime status... but when we get there, it's like we're just forgotten. The meetings are aimed at people who are losing weight (which is totally understandable); but I think it would be awesome to have one or two meetings a month that are just for Lifetime Members, to discuss maintenance.
Another problem I've noticed is that everybody who works there seems to be on a different page for everything. It's very inconsistent when I weigh-in, for example. If I worked there, I would look at the book, see that I'm weighing a Lifetimer who is below goal, and I would congratulate them for maintaining rather than saying something like, "Well, at least you didn't gain." They all seem to think that I should be striving to lose more weight, and I'm not.
After today, I just don't have any desire to go to another meeting. I'll weigh-in once a month to keep my membership active and to keep my free e-tools; and when I go, I'll make sure it's my leader that weighs me, and no one else. I may tell her what happened today, but I don't know what good that will do. I don't feel like the meetings are necessary in my weight maintenance, so I'll be fine without them, but I was excited about them because I finally reached that Lifetime status! I've honestly found all the support I need from SparkPeople and my blog, so not attending meetings isn't that big of a deal.
Another option would be to go to a different WW center. It would be inconvenient, but I'm sure my experience would be better.
I want to make it clear that I'm not ranting about Weight Watchers in general. I really like their new program, and I'm sure that most centers are fantastic--I just feel very unwelcome at the center nearest to my house.
Anyway, I don't want to leave this post on a sour note! Today was obviously Valentine's Day, but Jerry and I never celebrate it, so it was just a normal day for us. He was off work, so we went to the kids' school to volunteer at their classroom parties.
|Eli's Valentine's Day project|
I can't believe all the junk food that they get! I could understand the candy, but Noah's classroom had a huge ice cream sundae bar, a billion cupcakes, cookies, and candy. Eli's class had pizza (this was after lunch), cookies, and candy. And that's what all of the holiday parties are like! I was totally tempted by the ice cream bar, but it's easy to turn down when kids have their sticky hands all over everything ;)
After school, we came home and spent some quality time with the kids. We played the board game Sorry, and then I read a few chapters of a book out loud to Eli.
I had to call the court at 6:00 regarding jury duty. I've gotten lucky so far, in that I haven't had to go in. As of Monday, I've been "on call", which means I have to call every night after 6:00 to find out whether I'll have to go in the next day. I would much rather just have a confirmed date than to wonder each day, but so far, I haven't had to go in. I'm on call until a week from tomorrow.
I'm reeeally hoping that I don't have to go in next week, because my kids are off school for winter break. My mom is on a cruise, and Jerry will be working, so I have no idea what I will do about childcare if I have to go in.
I really need to plan some adventures to do with the kids next week, so they don't drive me crazy with their constant bickering over break. ;)